The ‘Busy’ Trap

I read this great article this morning that one of my Facebook Friends posted on their timeline called The ‘Busy’ Trap, written by Tim Kreider.  The first paragraph immediately drew me in:

If you live in America in the 21st century you’ve probably had to listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are. It’s become the default response when you ask anyone how they’re doing: “Busy!” “So busy.” “Crazy busy.” It is, pretty obviously, a boast disguised as a complaint. And the stock response is a kind of congratulation: “That’s a good problem to have,” or “Better than the opposite.”

Ahhh….if that isn’t me, I don’t ever know who I am.  I’m ALWAYS saying I’m “so busy”, and it’s true, but it’s completely self inflicted!  I’M the one who signs up to coach a track team (or two) after work.   I’M the one who insists on running, doing p90x, and getting up insanely early to go to Bikram Yoga once or twice a week.  I’M the one who volunteers to help out friends to achieve their goals. And, I’M the one who still tries to have somewhat of a social life with my family, friends, and boyfriend.

I guess somehow I think the more things I do, the better all around gal I’ll be.  Taking a step outside my own body and looking at how stupid that statement is really cracks me up.  “Better” how? I’m now asking myself.  Is being sleep deprived, annoyed, frustrated, and stressed out making me a better person?  Probably  not.  Does anyone care if I do any of the above mentioned activities?  Again, probably not.  I love that this article opened my eyes to many things and really put some meaning into the phrase “take time to stop and smell the roses”.  Merely doing things to do them, but not getting enjoyment out of them is pretty pointless.

Though I’m saying this now, I was still the one that got up at 4:45AM to ride my bike 10 miles, write this blog post, go to work, run errands on my lunch break, go running and do p90x after work, make dinner, fulfill a prior commitment, do household chores, and going to see fireworks tonight.  Where does it end!  I need to start realizing, and more importantly, living by the thought that life is about the making the moments matter, and enjoying what  you do…not just packing the most things into everyday that you can.  Now lets just see if i can do something about this for myself!


About erinHasThoughts

I just started eHT in January of 2011, and I'm shocked and humbled that people read it! For some reason it seems like I am always in the most ridiculous situations and witness things only seen in movies, so I like to share my experiences with all of you. Thanks for reading! xo

Posted on July 3, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. Nice post. All of our busyness is self inflicted. There are always choices just like you said.


    • Thanks!! It’s just funny because I actually really do enjoy everything I do, don’t get me wrong, I guess I just enjoy too many things! A friend of mine and I made plans yesterday…for July 17th. Yes, on July 2, my first “free day” is July 17th. That is RIDICULOUS. I even sometimes get mad at people who DO have free time…I guess the jokes on me! haha


  2. I loved this post Erin. Especially the bit about thinking you are “better all around” if you fill up your time with commitments and activities. I think you probably are. Everytime you told me how busy you are and all of the things that you do I always thought, “Wow. She is so motivated. Why don’t I have any activities? How does she have the energy?” A bit envious, I’ll admit! But when I read what you did yesterday- all 109233 things from when you rose to when you went to bed- I felt exhausted just reading it! Ha! I am NOT as energetic as you!


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